All you need to know about Emotions

Emotion is that complex psychological state which includes intuitiveness, love, hate, anger, jealousy and probably a million more. This is indigenous and unique to the complex beings or the human beings. But what is so complex about an emotion? Does the existence of emotions in human beings make us so “complete, yet complex”? How vulnerable can these emotions be? So, how do we begin our journey of exploring the universe of emotions? By finding out the answers to these questions, maybe!

How would I define “emotion”? Simple! Emotion is like driving a car, it’s all in your control. It’s your choice to take either a left or a right, to speed up or to drive it like it were a turtle. Similarly, handling emotions is in your hands, it is you who choose to either stay happy or sad, to fall in love or to burn someone in your heart. That’s it? No my friend, the problem comes when you realize that you aren’t the only one driving the car down the street!

We interact with 100s of people and make new friends everyday. Each of these do affect your life in one way or the other. However, they have their own mind sets and principles, which may or may not be similar to that of yours. These beings are like the other drivers who are trying to reach their destination. Everything is fine until we all drive in harmony with other, but we mustn’t forget that each person is different so it will be safe to assume that each person will have a different car and we all have an own way of driving. Emotions like jealousy, anger, hatred probably kicks in when we envy the other person’s car or his driving (in our context). As you keep driving further and further, you are joined by many other cars and this is when you realize that you cannot drive the way you want. You have to think about everyone else around you while driving, you can’t just go and bump into someone just because you wanted to reach your destination in a jiffy! Thus, you get tangled in the rules and teachings, which probably doesn’t allow you to go rogue. These are those rules which our society/religion sets up for us. We are bound to follow them, else you are disgraced. This car is like your life which is full of emotions and dreams, and you are its driver, bounded with rules of society and is constantly worried about how your life and behaviour would effect others. Thereby, making this simple car driving, the toughest and the most complex thing on the planet! Thus, controlling your emotions is in your hands, it’s always been about you all the way. Now this answers the first question of , “Why is dealing with emotions a complex job?”

Coming to the part where we discuss about the second question, “Does the existence of emotions in human beings make us so complete, yet complex?” Yes, it is these emotions which complete us, but it is the humans who make their lives miserable and complex. We are always in a hurry to satisfy everyone and in this pursuit we miss out on satisfying ourselves. Life will become much simpler when you stop thinking about what the other person thinks about you. Unnecessary emotions, which we refer to as the negative emotions arise only because you know a lot less about yourself and you worry a lot more about the person who is better than you. Another major problem with us is that we don’t love ourselves. We want love and attention from someone or the other to continually to stay happy. Moreover, we can’t even spend few minutes with ourselves, we just don’t enjoy our own company. So, to make our lives less complex and more complete, we need to start loving ourselves because there is no one in this entire world who has or will stay with you until your last breath except your body. We must also stop trying to satisfy others and rather try to satisfy ourselves. You ll realize that you will be better off in your life once you cultivate this in your life.

The final and the most important question, “How vulnerable can your emotions be?” The way you manage your emotions is what defines you as a person. Emotion is that master lock, which can be unlocked or controlled by you. Guess what happens when someone gets the key to this master lock. He can do anything with it, can’t he? He gets the control over your happiness, he can make you sad and jealous too. So, this is what can we do to make sure that this key remains safe with us? Stop socializing? Stop loving people? Stop making friends at all? No, such drastic steps aren’t required at all. All we need to do is to become conscious about ourselves. Once we know ourselves thoroughly, we will automatically eliminate insecurities and will wipe out the chances of us depending on other’s acts to determine which emotion would get exploited. Emotional dependency can be a disaster in any kind of relationship, as once the relationship dilates, the emotions have nothing to rely on and thereby leading to depression. The essence of emotion is that it can be felt and let’s keep it pure. Unnecessary haywire can be avoided when you pilot your emotions and by not going rouge.